One-to-one counselling
One place where you don’t have to wear the armour.
Hi, I’m Joseph, a BACP-registered counsellor from the UK with a BA (Hons) in Counselling. For more than 18 years I’ve dedicated my life to understanding how men think, struggle, heal, and rebuild.
My work has taken me from London to Beijing, Bangkok, and Dhaka, working with men from many different cultures. Different countries, different stories, but beneath them all, the same questions often emerge: Who am I now? How did I get here? Where do I go from here?
My qualifications matter, but they’re only part of my story.
I’ve lived through bereavement, betrayal, burnout, and the moment when I realised the life I’d built no longer reflected the man I wanted to become. I chose a different path, not because it was easy, but because I knew there had to be more than simply surviving. That journey taught me something I now bring to every man I work with: you don’t have to have everything figured out before your life can begin to change.
What I offer is something that’s surprisingly rare.
A place where you can speak openly about the things you’ve never said out loud. The anxiety you keep hidden. The pressure of always being the one who holds it together. The doubts, regrets, fears, anger, or loneliness that you’ve carried for years.
You don’t have to protect me from your story. You don’t have to worry about burdening me. You don’t have to pretend you’re coping when you’re not.
For that hour, my attention is entirely on you.
I won’t tell you who you should be or hand you a list of answers. I believe you’re the expert on your own life. My role is to help you untangle the thoughts, experiences, and beliefs that have shaped you, so you can begin to see yourself and your future with greater clarity.
Together, we’ll explore how your past continues to influence your relationships, your confidence, your decisions, and the way you see yourself today. As those patterns become clearer, so do your choices. And with choice comes freedom.
Sometimes healing means making difficult changes. Sometimes it means accepting the parts of yourself you’ve spent years trying to hide. Often, it’s learning to treat yourself with the same patience, honesty, and compassion that you’ve always offered everyone else.
Whether you’re facing burnout, relationship problems, grief, anxiety, a major life transition, or simply the feeling that something important is missing, you don’t have to walk through it alone.
I believe every man deserves one place where he doesn’t have to wear the armour. A place where he can think clearly, speak honestly, and begin building a life that feels authentic, not one that’s been shaped by expectation, fear, or obligation.
Because real strength isn’t pretending you’re fine. It’s having the courage to find out who you are when you no longer have to pretend.
Areas I commonly help men with
Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why do I keep ending up in the same relationships?” or “Why do I feel lost, even though I’ve done everything I was supposed to do?” Many of the men I work with arrive feeling stuck rather than “broken.” They know something needs to change, but they’re not always sure what, or where to begin. Together, we often explore:
Life & Identity
- •Feeling lost, directionless, or uncertain about the next chapter.
- •Major life transitions, career changes, or retirement.
- •Burnout, emotional exhaustion, and feeling like you’re simply existing rather than living.
- •Building a life that feels meaningful and aligned with your values.
Relationships & Attachment
- •Repeating the same relationship patterns.
- •Fear of intimacy, vulnerability, or emotional closeness.
- •Anxious, avoidant, or insecure attachment patterns.
- •Trust, betrayal, separation, divorce, and rebuilding healthy relationships.
- •Learning to communicate with confidence, honesty, and emotional maturity.
Emotional Wellbeing
- •Anxiety, chronic stress, and overthinking.
- •Depression, emptiness, or emotional numbness.
- •Anger, resentment, frustration, and emotional regulation.
- •Low self-worth, imposter syndrome, and harsh self-criticism.
- •Grief, loss, and making sense of life’s hardest moments.
Growth & Purpose
- •Developing confidence without arrogance.
- •Letting go of old beliefs that no longer serve you.
- •Creating healthier habits, boundaries, and relationships.
- •Turning insight into practical action.
- •Becoming the man you genuinely want to be, not the one you feel expected to be.
My approach is direct, thoughtful, and free from judgement. I won’t tell you how to live your life, but I will help you understand what’s been shaping it, challenge the patterns that keep you stuck, and support you as you build a future that feels more authentic, connected, and purposeful. These conversations sit at the intersection of psychological clarity and lived experience: direct, non-judgemental, and focused on what actually moves the needle.
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Men I’ve worked with
I was reluctant at the thought of seeking help. Looking back, it was the right step. I highly recommend Joseph, especially the Dream Analysis sessions.
As a bloke, it’s bloody hard to find the courage to ask for help and admit you need counselling. Joseph created a safe space where I actually felt heard and understood.
Having sessions from my own space made me feel more comfortable opening up. I also liked the different ways we could communicate: sometimes I didn’t feel like talking on video or audio but still wanted to check in through messages. Joseph was right about the disinhibition effect. It actually helped me put my feet up a bit and finally explore the elephant in the room.
Joseph really helped me understand and put into words the origins of some deeply embedded patterns. He is patient and compassionate, while also being proactive and constructively challenging when I need him to be.
I came on the one-on-one retreat and was surprised by what I found: kindness all around, and conversations that could be unpacked amid the greenery, fresh air, and villages. The road trips and meetings we had have given me a clearer outlook on what I now want to do and where I need to be. The counselling and genuine care that Joseph and Mali provided made me feel truly looked after the whole time.
I’m a practical guy. I needed some assignments to integrate what I was learning, and Joseph consistently provided cognitive assignments every two weeks that helped cement my attachment issues.
I was completely overwhelmed by work stress and financial pressure before starting with Joseph. Looking back, booking that first session was the best step I could have taken. Joseph helped me identify the root causes of my exhaustion and gave me a clear blueprint to manage the pressure of my career. As an American I was surprised by his international experience. I could actually relate to it. Counseling has been incredibly good for me, giving me practical strategies to rebuild my confidence and regain control of my life.
Being a man, it was really hard for me to admit that my quick temper and constant irritability were ruining my relationships. Joseph created a safe, non-judgmental space where I felt completely heard, understood, and respected. Working together has proven to be life-changing. He taught me how to process my frustration constructively instead of shutting down or snapping at my family.
I originally reached out to Joseph because I felt totally isolated and unable to communicate my needs to my partner without it turning into an argument. Having sessions from my own space made me feel comfortable opening up about things I had never told anyone before. Counseling with Joseph has been so valuable. It helped me break through emotional barriers and learn how to actually connect with the people I love.
After a massive heartbreak, Joseph really helped me navigate a massive life transition when I felt like I'd completely lost my sense of purpose and who i felt I was. Coming on the one-on-one retreat took that work even further. The setting, the conversations, and the space to properly unpack things amid the greenery and quiet villages helped me stop numbing my feelings and start reconstructing my goals. Joseph is patient and deeply compassionate, while also being proactive and constructively challenging when necessary. The whole process, both the sessions and the retreat, has proven to be exactly what I needed to move forward with clarity.
Joseph isn’t just another counsellor. After everything he’s been through himself, he really understands what it means to walk through fire. He helps you shed the weight of the past and start building a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Working with him gave me a clarity and sense of purpose I hadn’t felt in years.
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A single, private hour with Joseph. $60, online, with a time you choose straight after payment.
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